While anger has its place if anger is not managed it can become a very dangerous thing.
“He’s just cut in front of me”; “Why is it always me that clears the kitchen”; “how dare they say that!” We all get angry at some time. Perhaps we are treated unfairly or with no respect or you feel you have to defend yourself. There is that moment when anger grips us and we seem to lose control in our need to get something changed and changed now.
Anger is of course a very natural re-action and its purpose is to keep us safe from danger and threats. You feel a rush of energy as the adrenaline kicks in and your heart rate increases, your muscles and body are ready for action. You focus on one thing perhaps blotting out everything else and you find yourself going towards the threat or source of your anger. All of this can happen very quickly and afterwards we can feel we were out of control.
So how do you do things differently? One of the key places to start is in understanding what the triggers might be, what pushes your buttons. Then looking at these ask yourself what is it that I am reacting to, what makes this so important to me? Ask yourself if there are different things you can do such as walking away or acting in a different way. Even being more aware of the triggers can be the vehicle for change.
If you feel anger building take a few deep breaths, walk away from the source of anger or at least don’t go toward it. Remember that you are 
doing the best thing in the situation in which you find yourself. Often that will be to think through how you want to react so that you can come back later and put your point assertively and effectively.
It is possible to control your anger and worthwhile taking the time to do so. If you lash out in anger often you find that it reflects back on you and you find that you feel bad or guilty about yourself as a result of your actions and the original cause is overlooked.