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Suicide - have you got it wrong

Suicide rates in the UK have been falling, yet suicide is still the leading cause of death in young men. Having just had national suicide week, we are all considering the ways to be more aware of those with suicidal feelings. Can we learn and can we help to make a difference to the problem?Read more

Lets talk about suicide

shadowIn 2011 in Scotland there were 772 deaths by suicide a fall on 2010, but the number still represents 2 per day and that is 2 too many Perhaps if we were all a bit more comfortable about what is happening for the person with suicidal thoughts we would be able to do some good.

Suicide comes from a set of feelings and thoughts where the person feels helpless, that things can never get better and there is nothing they can do that will make their life better ever. They want to stop the pain the feelings that they are suffering. Read more

Self-Injury Day

Self-harmerSelf-Injury or self-harm is something that a large part of the population misunderstand and recoil from. There is an assumption that the self-harmer is trying to kill themselves or at least do themselves very serious harm. Yet self-harmers rarely have suicide in mind. Read more

Self harm the silent scream

It's almost never discussed, a behaviour that many find shocking. Self harmers are almost always misunderstood, as many people say that they can't understand the behaviour, so they feel even more isolated. Self harm is a range behaviours, perhaps most often associated with cutting, but sufferers burn themselves, break bones, bang their heads off walls. It is a way of coping with difficult emmotional circumstances and without help it can be very difficult to stop because it is the mechanism by which they cope with their lives.Read more

Self harm - a scream not madness

Anxiety and depression seem to be more prevalent than ever before in today’s society.  It is to be hoped that this is because it is becoming more socially acceptable to talk about mental illness rather than the negative stereo type that it often carries with it. This is in no small part due to the courage of many sufferers both in public and private who have shared their condition and started that public dialogue.

While much has been written about anxiety and depression which we are beginning to believe are two different faces of the same condition. Less is spoken publicly about some of the ways in which people cope. One of these which can be difficult to talk about is that of self-harm. It is linked in the public consciousness to suicide or that terrible cliché a cry for help. It can be alarming for friends and family and often they don’t know how to reach out to the person.

Self-harm which I believe is better described as self-injury covers many practices: tearing your hair out, taking an overdose, cutting your body, burning, scratching, anorexia and other behaviours which are dangerous or harmful to the individual.

The causes although absolutely understood, often are as the result of a trauma or difficulties in early or adolescent life. It is likely that they had no one to talk to about what was going on, for example being abused and being unable to tell or not believed when they tell. Abuse is only one mechanism bullying; isolations from the family, perhaps being taken into care all have an effect. Self harm might me a form of punishment for something that the person thinks they have done or allowed to happen.

Yet self-injury is not a suicide attempt but rather the opposite a method of coping with the feelings that have nowhere to go. In that respect it is not that different from yelling or crying, it is just that the effects go inward directed back at themselves, not believing that they are worth much. The behaviour helps to numb the pain to put off having to deal with it and that helps them face the next day.

Unfortunately society and even healthcare professionals have treated those who self-injure poorly. The condition is not well understood and it can be seen as taking resources away from people who ‘are really ill’. Talking to sufferers it is not uncommon to hear of being treated roughly. Fortunately things are changing and certainly in the health community the need for treatment is widely recognised.

It is possible to get help, your GP will be able to access a range of therapies and there are many support groups across the country.  As so often talking therapies such as counselling can make a real difference as the trauma and issues are revisited and expressed. Know what can trigger your self-injury – see it you can avoid or mitigate its effects. As far as you are able look after yourself, clean wounds, protect injured sites, try to cut down or change behaviours.

If you are supporting someone who self-injure, you of course need to be aware of the risks and the dangers, but try not to see them as their injury try to support them as they struggle with the condition and accept that there will be setbacks. Ultimately it is going to be a long process to resolve this.

Is there a crisis in mental health in Scotland?

AnxietyFigures out in the last few weeks have shown that the NHS spent more than £3,000,000 extra on prescriptions for anti-depressants in the last year. The 5 million medicines used to treat people with a variety of mental health issues. This comes on the back of a BBC investigation that showed that some people with mental health problems who attempted suicide had to be held in custody for their own safety, either because there was no bed for them in a hospital or that their assessment did not merit admission. In terms of numbers there were nearly 800 suicides in Scotland in 2010, and in a recent survey Tayside police reported as many as 150 in one month.Read more

Anti depressants in Scotland

AnxietyIt seems that in Scotland the rate of prescribing anti depressants continues to grow. Now more than 10% are on anti-depressants. Some doctors and politicians are calling for the trend to be reversed and a focus needs to be put on other earlier forms of intervention with anti depressants seen as a last rather than a first resort.

Some of the more common things that the medicines are prescribed for include depression and anxiety and there are now a range of therapies available as alternatives including counselling and other talking therapies.Read more