Perhaps your blood pressure rockets in traffic. Maybe you feel yourself at boiling point when your kids refuse to co-operate. Anger is a normal human emotion. We all get angry from time to time, however often with feelings of regret. Continue reading
Wondering if you should save your relationship? Are there moments when you would pack your bags and leave and others where you long to go back to simpler times when you knew each other? You are not unusual and many people before you have struggled with problems in their relationship and don’t know what to do to save it. It seems that things are going from bad to worse and there is nothing you can to save your relationship. Continue reading
“Unexpressed emotions will never die. They are buried alive and will come forth later in uglier ways”, many have lived the reality of Sigmund Freud’s words. Consider the situation where you and your partner are at a party, you have been looking forward to it for weeks, a chance to socialise a chance to be together away from the pressures of everyday life. Yet Continue reading
If you are one of the many couples each year who find themselves with relationship problems, you may have considered if counselling can help you. Can counselling make a difference in your relationship? How can talking to a stranger about your relationship make a difference? There is no simple answer to these questions. Counselling is a process, and like many processes change happens by degrees and in proportion to the effort and care applied. However, when counselling is used effectively, repeatedly it has been shown to have a positive outcome. So what changes might you expect counselling to deliver? Continue reading
The end of a relationship
The end of a relationship is never easy. You can find yourself dealing with an array of difficult emotions. Regardless of how the relationship ended, whether by choice, mutual agreement or choosing to go your separate ways, there are painful emotions that have to be dealt with. Continue reading
Conflict – A common problem
Do you run from conflict? Would you rather put up with almost anything than risk a disagreement and argument? Then perhaps you are one of the many who are not confident with conflict. Faced with conflict we take to flight, we hide from the feelings that are bound to follow a confrontation. Continue reading
When talking about listening skills, the well-known speaker and author Stephen R. Covey once said, “Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” This will match many people’s experience of listening skills where they feel misunderstood and find themselves defending a position rather than discussing or gaining deeper insight.
Why are listening skills so useful?
Listening at any time is important Continue reading