When all hope is gone

Hope is it ever all gone? Pandora’s Box contained all the evils of the world which were release by Pandora’s curiosity. Yet, when the box closed again, only hope remained. The myth suggests that it alone protects us from the evils of the world. So what do we do when we find ourselves without it. What do we do when all hope is gone?Read more

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Revealed self-harm

Difficult to talk about, discrimination, isolation, guilt and shame all words associated with self-harm. Self-harm is largely misunderstood and it can be difficult to have a conversation free of judgement. Yet if you are to change, how do you do that in such a difficult and daunting environment?

There are many reasons behind self-harm,Read more


Sex addicts - The loneliest addiction

There can be little doubt that there has been a rise in the amount of easily available porn in our society today. Changing attitudes to Sex and the availability of seemly endless porn sites on the internet have led to an increase in people describing themselves as sex addicts.Read more


Feeling better about yourself

Feeling better about yourself - Can you?

Part of being human is to have times when we are feeling insecure about ourselves. How do you then, feel better about yourself? The trigger can be anything from a text message with an unusual tone, through people seeming to treat you differently, or perhaps things just seem to be going badly and you can’t seem to bounce back. You want to focus on feeling better about yourself, but are not sure where to start. How do you navigate the maelstrom of negativity and start the process of feeling better about yourself?Read more


Critical voice - Whistle a happy tune

We all have those critical voices in our head from time to time chastising us or enumerating our wrongs. Perhaps we long for a Disney conscience like Jiminy Cricket, but the reality is that we are much harder on ourselves than any cartoon character. For many of us the thoughts in our head are helpful they provide a conscience and help us to hold to our principles and values. Yet if you are at a low point in your life or under attack when that voice becomes a critical voice it can take on a more self-destructive air.Read more

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Returning to work

I know from my treatment room that one of the biggest challenges that some clients face having been off of work with depression, stress or anxiety is that of returning to work.  However complete their cure, however, positive they feel about themselves there still always seems that little twinge when you think of the first day back.

Thoughts can run riot, Read more

Mental health - nothing to worry about?

Mental health while becoming more accepted in society can still be a very frightening thing. Like so many things that we are frightened of it is not what it is but the fear of the unknown that is the problem. Often in my practice I am asked am I going crazy (whatever that might mean) and it is almost a cry for a label to hang on these symptoms that are so difficult to understand and deal with.

Very often when we first encounter stress, or anxiety or depression for the first time we will do something which we don’t recognise in ourselves. That might be getting angry or bursting into tears. It might be we experience fear when we think of ourselves as someone who is fearless. Part of the problem can be that moment of the rug being taken from under our feet in that we are no longer sure who we are.

The response that many of us will try is to carry on as normal to try not to make a fuss and to put a brave face on our feelings and thoughts. Yet in reality we are pushing them away and rather like holding a beach ball under water eventually Read more